FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS

As the Best Man, you will be expected to take charge, which means some financial responsibility will fall on your shoulders. While the Best Man is expected to pay for his own tuxedo, shoes, gloves, and cuff links if worn, the Bride and Groom generally will pay for all the boutonnieres, other flowers, decorations, cake, music, and photographer for both ceremony and reception.

You will also be responsible for your travel expenses if coming in from another city, which includes airfare, taxis, hotels, rental car, gratuities, and so on. Occasionally, the Groom may offer assistance if you are traveling but you should only accept his offer if you know that you cannot afford to be in the wedding otherwise.

Regarding expenses for the bachelor party, they too will belong to you. If you need to hire a van and a driver, party space, special entertainment, food, and beverages, these too will be the responsibility of the Best Man. Other times, the ushers will volunteer to take up collections for the party, or the Groom may offer financial assistance, but the Best Man should never ask.

One of the most important roles of the Best Man is to pay for a gift, special for the Bride and Groom. Although your schedule is busy, this gift to the Bride and Groom is symbolic. Make sure you take care of this significant gesture soon after you find out about the wedding.